Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now

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Notes from The Notebook:

We have all seen the movie The Notebook, one of the greatest love stories ever. My favorite part was the infamous argument scene where Allie has to make a decision which guy to choose. (Firstly, let me say, I personally don’t agree with any cheating in relationships, so I’m not referencing that part of the story at all. I am strictly using the reference from this movie to focus on a point of knowing the what, when, and why’s of deciding who is the Mr. Right for your life.)

Allie’s inability to decide what she wanted reminded me of how it can be in real life in regards to choosing a perfect match for love.

Before she found the news article about Noah (her true lost love), Allie had settled for Mr. Right Now and was more concerned about pleasing others with that decision, instead of doing what is necessary to get Mr. Right (Noah), who she really desired.

But, when faced with the reality of Mr. Right being a possible option again after they lost contact for a few years. His presence helped her think about the true happiness she knew in her heart was missing.

She ran to reconnect with him (she wanted “closure”……..riiiiggghhhttt). Lol!Check out the dialogue between Noah and Allie after they reconnected in the moment where she is forced to make one of the biggest decisions of her life…which man is Mr. Right? (You can also find the video of this scene on YouTube under the title: “Notebook fight scene”):

Noah: “So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard, and we’re gonna have to work at this every day but I wanna do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me, every day.  Will you do something for me? Please? Will you just picture your life for me, 30 years from now, 40 years from now? What’s it look like? If it’s with that guy, go. Go! I lost you once, I think I could do it again. If I thought it’s what you really wanted. But don’t you take the easy way out.”

Allie: “What easy way? There is no easy way! No matter what I do, somebody gets hurt!”

Noah: “Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do you want?” (Allie shakes her head, as Noah continues) “What do you want?”

Feeling pressed to give an answer too quickly Allie yells: “It’s not that simple!”

With frustration in his voice Noah says again: “What do you want?”

Please excuse the language in this scene

Wow, really intense! I’ve watched that scene a thousand times (don’t tell my bro’s I said that, lol), each time was as fascinating as the first time I saw it. Such an emotionally charged scene. You become so engulfed in the scene that you want to make the decision for her. I’m watching, I’m biting my nails yelling: “Allie choose Noah for the sake of all humanity, please!!!” Lol!

In real life, it’s challenging times like this where your life’s destiny is set in motion from one big decision. When we have to think about what we want and make a decision or possibly lose out on a great opportunity for true love.

Simple right!

I agree and disagree with Allie saying “it’s not that simple”…because, on one hand, it is a simple decision to make if you are honest with yourself about what you really want, but, on the other hand even the best decision can affect you and others in an adverse way, so, that’s where it becomes not so simple.

Simple or not, we all have to decide, right?

How do we really know what’s the best decision to make?

Though Allie was undecided in this scene, in the end she became confident in her decision and got her dream guy (Noah) who loved her with passion for the rest of their lives.

One of my amazing jobs is to make it “simple” by empowering women with the ability to identify, get and keep Mr. Right with confidence. No more Mr. Right Now. No more heartaches. No more time wasted with scrubs.

After coaching with Confidence Community you will find that true love that can be yours forever.

It’s that simple!

Are you ready? Mr. Right is awaiting your decision!


-Sean Swank (Confidence Community)

Here are a few subject titles we cover in our Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now programs:

  • Do and Don’ts of Dating
  • From “Hello” to “I Do” — The Simple Steps to Dating Success for Women
  • The Notebook
  • Manomics 101 for women
  • Image Consultation
  • Having Standards (Know Your Rights and Avoid His Wrongs)
  • Being the Woman That Gets The Man… Gets the Man
  • Don’t Mess It Up! How To Keep Your Good Thing Going
  • Making the Grass Greener On Your Side of the Fence
  • Why Woman are More Powerful Than Men and Why Some Women Don’t Know It
  • There is Crying in Baseball: Emotional Versus Logical
  • Advice for Your Current Relationship
  • Masked-culinity — Why Women Don’t Trust Men and How to Overcome Distrust
  • & so many more

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